Lucy Hone's Ted Talk was a revelation for me during my deepest grief. Certainly one effect of having now lost both parents is no longer feeling awkward around other people's grief. I recognize how, in the past, I didn't want to bring up someone's recent loss, worried that I might make them sad by reminding them (as if it weren't already …
Lucy Hone's Ted Talk was a revelation for me during my deepest grief. Certainly one effect of having now lost both parents is no longer feeling awkward around other people's grief. I recognize how, in the past, I didn't want to bring up someone's recent loss, worried that I might make them sad by reminding them (as if it weren't already on their mind), or that I'd say the wrong thing. It's been such a different experience to sit or walk with friends going through more recent grief, and simply allowing it to be whatever it is, and noticing the relief everyone feels when that permission is there.
Lucy Hone's Ted Talk was a revelation for me during my deepest grief. Certainly one effect of having now lost both parents is no longer feeling awkward around other people's grief. I recognize how, in the past, I didn't want to bring up someone's recent loss, worried that I might make them sad by reminding them (as if it weren't already on their mind), or that I'd say the wrong thing. It's been such a different experience to sit or walk with friends going through more recent grief, and simply allowing it to be whatever it is, and noticing the relief everyone feels when that permission is there.
A beautiful expression of empathy, Rob. So true - creating space is an underrated gift! Lucy Hone's book is good 'Resilient Grieving'.