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This landed in my inbox at the perfect time. Right in the moment I needed it. I’m a caregiver for my mother as well. I also left behind the corporate world. I love my mother with all my heart. But I also feel all the very real complex feelings of all caregivers. … every word here is a reminder to lean into the love. Accept and embrace where I am in this moment, and have those eyes wide open for life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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Ohhh I’m so glad. I’m just on my way out into sunshine with ‘freedom’ in my earphones! You’ve made my day knowing its landed & resonates! I highly recommend doing a little dance about to George & Mary J- it helps honest!

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YAY YAY YAY!!!

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I loved reading a little bit more of your personal experience and the sense of joy in it! It's not all painful and hard and terrible. Finding moments of joy in the in-between is such an important lesson in and of itself. <3

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Thanks, Anna. I'm very blessed. As YOU know, there is a lot of bittersweet tearing pain, but there is love, deep inside. It's tough trying to find the space and hold it in the moments of pain. I deeply respect all the things you and other 'sandwichers' do. Me, myself and I struggle on our own! ;-) I'm grateful for our mutual appreciation and connection. xo

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Perfect timing to read this, Victoria. Thank you for sharing your words. We have full lives in which caregiving is one of the aspects. I hope the sunshine sustained and shone some of its love on you. Happy dance! 🌞

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Thanks Susan! It was more of funk-soul-strut around the shops ;-) I may update this but because I share, to care: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6HSIGpaO15Ad8HqUn5R34x?si=c748d74347c84e03

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It is a joy to read this, Victoria. It didn’t feel like it at the time - I was too exhausted to sort out my feelings - but I do know now that it was love that saw me through. Enjoy your respite! I’m thrilled for you!

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Thank you, Mary! Restoring my love-cells ;-) I have a drink in hand now and cheers'g you.

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Victoria, this was very feeling and meaningful -even though as I receive it, I am not a carer. I’ve forwarded your site to a friend who—suddenly—has become a carer for her beloved husband.

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Thank you Marlena. The more we can network to help our friends and family, the more good empathy and inspiration ciculates. GOOD karma!

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