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Kyra Faison-Gardner's avatar

Thank you for this Victoria. The power of being Zen with incomplete tasks resonated especially.

Victoria's avatar

Thanks for reading and your comment, Kyra!

Faye's avatar

So many good insights Ty

Kirsten Mau's avatar

“Being zen with an unfinished task is a new practice I’ve been trying to learn for a while now.” This resonates with me. It’s so hard to let unfinished tasks just be when you know they need to be done. But you can hide behind busyness and avoid an awful lot!

Victoria's avatar

Hi Kirsten, you might want to read @Sarah Coomber post https://sandwichseason.substack.com/p/revisiting-sometimes-we-need-to-take

I'm glad this post resonated with you. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate (a pun specially for you ;-) ) Perhaps you're not avoiding, but trying to keep a lot of plates spinning

For me, recently, with the numerous medical appointments, writing this letter gave me space to think about having mindful moments to intentionally choose what to get done...- which plate to put down or spin - that's what's giving me more 'zen'. Semantics maybe, but it's not something that would've been possible for me back in 2019. My circumstances are more conducive to the trade-offs now, and what I've been through in the past has enabled me to catch myself when I'm going on autopilot, spinning. Hope that makes sense.

All to say, I'm sending over strength and hugs, whatever way you're doing things is the right way. I hope you can give yourself permission to be zen with an unfinished task so you can find time for yourself. xo

Kirsten Mau's avatar

Plates spinning! I love that and I’m going to mull that over for an essay. How have I not thought of that?!

Victoria's avatar

Probably because you're focused on keeping them spinning, all at the same time - also because each piece of the china is precious, right!? This is why sharing our experiences is so helpful for each other - to offer a different perspective. Someone else can help with the spinning or you can choose to put the plate down. The hardest realisation is that a plate will fall - you can't control everything.

I'm not sure if you read this one - it'll give you more of an idea about why I empathise so much with where you are - I know spinning plates! https://www.carermentor.com/p/changes-beyond-my-control-but-agility?utm_source=publication-search