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Janine De Tillio Cammarata 🖊️'s avatar

I look forward to this season of letters. I often overlook the fact that caregivers have the choice and should be able to choose how we care for our loved ones. Then within the framework of that decision, how can we be safe and live aligned with our values and purpose.

There's no wrong or right answer. It's so individual. I also think there shouldn't be a level of shame or judgement between caregivers or those who are looking in. We don't know what someone else is going through.

I hope this series of letters opens people's eyes to the nuances and needs of caregivers.

thank you for this space, Victoria!

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Victoria's avatar

Thank you, Janine. I'm glad these points came across.

I'm also sensitive to cultural differences and also language differences...the fingerprint of experiences is SO unique. As you've said elsewhere, pausing and listening and reflecting before responding is very important.Thank you.

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Janine De Tillio Cammarata 🖊️'s avatar

It has taught me to not judge or offer my advice even as a caregiver. If someone needs advice, they'll ask. And these articles hold space and give different views, which I'm sure will resonate with so many.

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Victoria's avatar

Thanks, I hope so, Janine!

Having your voices and each experience, speaks volumes.

One way I've used is to ask if they "want to hear about my experience/ideas...

but I'm here to listen first...not listen to respond.'

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

I needed to hear this tonight. I listened while I was cleaning up the house.

I have a huge meeting tomorrow about resources for my daughters

It’s a long story

We have said everything in here so perfectly beautiful

Much love and appreciation

💓

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Victoria's avatar

Thank you. Sending strength, love and hope to you, Prajna.

I'll be thinking of you. Walking alongside you and your wonderful girls.

BIG hugs

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Marcilina Martel's avatar

Thank you for allowing me share my younger self and be a part of the “letters from a caregiver” Caregiving is a hard journey. It’s unnatural in a way to have to care for someone you love. These stories show how it can be done. They show the love, the endurance, the loyalty, the care. We will keep going, like we always do for those we will always love. Xoxo💛

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Victoria's avatar

Thanks, for writing your letter and being part of this collaboration. Sharing our thoughts and networking empathy is so important. Lots more to come ;-)

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Cathy Joseph's avatar

My heart goes out to the caregivers of the world. They give and give and give, and I have known more than a few who have nothing left to take care of themselves, as well. I am quite sure the community you created, Victoria, is a source of strength and comfort to so many. I look forward to reading your winter series and "meeting" the next group of incredible people.

(And thank you for the kind mention...!)

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