Both my parents have died, but I am getting older. What wonderful information you have. I will be forwarding this on to my kids. I was caregiver to my parents, 84 my mom and 95 my dad. Plus, I worked in assisted living for 25 years. That knowledge helped me help my parents, and me!
Hi Kim, I'm so glad the articles and information are resonating with you, given all your experience. Thanks for sharing. I hope your children find Carer Mentor useful too. In addition to the caregiving information you may like to explore the ComfortZone series of articles where I share inspiring music, podcasts and talks: https://www.carermentor.com/s/comfortzone
I was a caregiver for my husband with Alzheimer’s for four years and lost my sense of who I was along the way. I write about ways to belong to yourself again (once you’ve lost her) in my weekly newsletter “The Tender Warrior.” Because— I truly had to be a warrior most days, but for the man who was the absolute love of my life. www.substack.com/@vickitull.com
Vicki, I completely understand what you mean by losing sense of self. This happened when my son was in treatment for leukemia and for years after he died. I look forward to reading more about your story.
My mother is dying and was just admitted to hospice last night. I’ve been caring for her and my dad for about a year and a half. I’m a palliative care nurse and I’ve been a hospice nurse and I’m grateful for my knowledge and experience but it is oh so different being on the other end of all that. I’m exhausted on every level, so much anticipatory fear and grief have turned to “just” grief. And I dread how my dad will cope, they’ve been together 64 years! I’m navigating and holding so much. I’m grateful to be able to share with those that get it. Thank you for what you provide Victoria. 💓💔
Oh Cyeece, BIG hugs! I hear you. Holding your hand and just sitting alongside you for a while. I'm guessing you're in emotional swirls, especially if you have the medical training - the rock and hard place of clinical and emotional. I'm sorry for all this raw hurt. You don't need advice, just bucketloads of heartfelt empathy, so I'm really glad you're here.
If you'd like a few thoughts or ideas, let me know, but you've a very full brain right now...and caring for your Dad...Big hugs.
Hi Charlotte. I'm so glad you found your way here. You're going through and been through so much! I've read your articles and I'm blown by everything you've navigated. As you said, it's a lot of life experiences. I hope others will engage with your articles after my restack-note. I recommend subscribing to the folks I tagged in the note. I had specific reasons why I chose those people - you'll find out why easily. BIG hugs.
P.S I appreciate your humour and your writing voice, I've a feeling that there's a lot of people who will feel the same way. I look forward to exchanging more with you. Take care. best wishes.
Both my parents have died, but I am getting older. What wonderful information you have. I will be forwarding this on to my kids. I was caregiver to my parents, 84 my mom and 95 my dad. Plus, I worked in assisted living for 25 years. That knowledge helped me help my parents, and me!
Hi Kim, I'm so glad the articles and information are resonating with you, given all your experience. Thanks for sharing. I hope your children find Carer Mentor useful too. In addition to the caregiving information you may like to explore the ComfortZone series of articles where I share inspiring music, podcasts and talks: https://www.carermentor.com/s/comfortzone
Have a good day.
I was a caregiver for my husband with Alzheimer’s for four years and lost my sense of who I was along the way. I write about ways to belong to yourself again (once you’ve lost her) in my weekly newsletter “The Tender Warrior.” Because— I truly had to be a warrior most days, but for the man who was the absolute love of my life. www.substack.com/@vickitull.com
Vicki, I completely understand what you mean by losing sense of self. This happened when my son was in treatment for leukemia and for years after he died. I look forward to reading more about your story.
Hi Vicki, Thank you for finding Carer Mentor, subscribing and sharing here. I've just subscribed to The Tender Warrior.
My heartfelt condolences for losing Lee. I'm so sorry Vicki.
I hope the anthologies in Carer Mentor, can offer you some empathy, and support. Warm wishes, Victoria
You are creating an amazing clearinghouse of vital information for caregivers. Glad you found me, and I look forward to continuing the conversations!
I absolutely love the description of your Substack. Having my ducks in a row for my son is so important to me and I am working hard on doing that.
I look forward to connecting and hearing your caregiving stories
My mother is dying and was just admitted to hospice last night. I’ve been caring for her and my dad for about a year and a half. I’m a palliative care nurse and I’ve been a hospice nurse and I’m grateful for my knowledge and experience but it is oh so different being on the other end of all that. I’m exhausted on every level, so much anticipatory fear and grief have turned to “just” grief. And I dread how my dad will cope, they’ve been together 64 years! I’m navigating and holding so much. I’m grateful to be able to share with those that get it. Thank you for what you provide Victoria. 💓💔
What a beautiful lifetime they have spent together. Sending you love and big hugs to carry you through this time. ❤️
Thank you 💓
Oh Cyeece, BIG hugs! I hear you. Holding your hand and just sitting alongside you for a while. I'm guessing you're in emotional swirls, especially if you have the medical training - the rock and hard place of clinical and emotional. I'm sorry for all this raw hurt. You don't need advice, just bucketloads of heartfelt empathy, so I'm really glad you're here.
If you'd like a few thoughts or ideas, let me know, but you've a very full brain right now...and caring for your Dad...Big hugs.
Thank you so much for your understanding and for hearing me!
Thank you for creating this space for us! Caregiver here, to my spouse with brain cancer and our two children.
Liza, Sending you and yours healing energy and big hugs. 🥰
Thank you, Janine!
Hi Liza, thank you for joining the Carer Mentor community & network. I need this for me too ;-)
Hi Charlotte. I'm so glad you found your way here. You're going through and been through so much! I've read your articles and I'm blown by everything you've navigated. As you said, it's a lot of life experiences. I hope others will engage with your articles after my restack-note. I recommend subscribing to the folks I tagged in the note. I had specific reasons why I chose those people - you'll find out why easily. BIG hugs.
P.S I appreciate your humour and your writing voice, I've a feeling that there's a lot of people who will feel the same way. I look forward to exchanging more with you. Take care. best wishes.