My friend, thank you for this! It is so hard to articulate to folks who aren’t in the storm the levels of uncertainty that caregiving brings, especially for “doers”. I’ve been saying to myself, “I am enough, I am doing enough” to calm the anxiety of living in this constantly changing reality with no known end date.
Exactly, Kerri!! I couldn't bring myself to say 'It is what it is' because, in an old work situation, when people said that, it seemed defeatist and contrary to a 'can-do' attitude. BUT in a caregiving situation we can't control things, so whilst I can't use that exact phrase I try to 'accept and acknowledge and see things as they are, without judgment' and try to have compassion and grace for myself...the journey continues!!
I'm saving your mantra now! We can only do our best and then we need to let go and not punish ourselves..I know I had a hard internal critic, with socially conditioned measures!
My friend, thank you for this! It is so hard to articulate to folks who aren’t in the storm the levels of uncertainty that caregiving brings, especially for “doers”. I’ve been saying to myself, “I am enough, I am doing enough” to calm the anxiety of living in this constantly changing reality with no known end date.
Exactly, Kerri!! I couldn't bring myself to say 'It is what it is' because, in an old work situation, when people said that, it seemed defeatist and contrary to a 'can-do' attitude. BUT in a caregiving situation we can't control things, so whilst I can't use that exact phrase I try to 'accept and acknowledge and see things as they are, without judgment' and try to have compassion and grace for myself...the journey continues!!
I'm saving your mantra now! We can only do our best and then we need to let go and not punish ourselves..I know I had a hard internal critic, with socially conditioned measures!